Angelastro, Mary Elizabeth

Tappan, NY

Mary Elizabeth Angelastro, 85, of Tappan, NY passed away peacefully on March 6th, 2021 at Brightview Senior Living in Tenafly, NJ. Daughter of the late Patrick and Elizabeth (nèe Leydon) McGovern, Mary was born in Manhattan on June 29th, 1935, the feast day of the Solemnity of Saints Peter and Paul. Sixty eight years later she would be blessed with twin grandsons named Peter and Paul, two of her beloved eleven grandchildren. Mary was one of five children born to Patrick and Elizabeth, Irish immigrants who met and married in New York in 1930. She was the third of four consecutive daughters, eventually followed by a son, James, who predeceased her in 2009. Mary’s sister, Anne, also predeceased her in May 2020. The family spent many happy years together in their apartment located on the corner of 97th St. and Park Ave where Mary grew up. Her father, Patrick, was a bus driver for the 5th Ave. Coach Company. Bus rides up and down 5th Ave with her sisters and friends and her Dad at the wheel were legendary. While in the midst of his route, Patrick would occasionally spot Mary and her friends on the street and pull the bus to the curb to pick them up. St. Patrick's Day was the event of the year for the McGovern’s as their place was within two blocks of the parade route and the gathering spot for family and friends. After seeing the parade together, Mary, her sisters, cousins and friends would all return to the 97th St. apartment to celebrate the holiday.

Mary was a graduate of Cathedral High School in New York. After high school, she worked as a clerical associate for the Metropolitan Life Insurance Co. While working at MetLife, Mary was introduced to her future husband, Philip Angelastro, on a trip to the Eastover Ski Resort in Lenox, MA. She was impressed by Phil’s offer of an aspirin for her headache and despite her being "GU" (geographically undesirable - as measured by subway stops), Phil still proposed and they married on October 3rd, 1959. Mary and Phil were together for 60 joyous years until Phil’s death in April last year.

Mary and Phil first settled in the Bronx, NY and then moved their growing family to Rockland County in 1965. Together, they raised five children in Tappan, NY. Including their three years in Pearl River, they lived in Orangetown for almost forty-five years. In the late 1970’s, Mary began working as a nurse’s aide both privately and at the Elmwood Manor, now called Northern Manor, Nursing Home in Nanuet, NY. She spent almost 20 years at Elmwood Manor working mostly weekend nights. She was a gentle, caring presence for Elmwood Manor’s residents and worked tirelessly to attend to their needs during the difficult overnight shifts. Without knowing at the time, Mary “paid it forward” while at Elmwood Manor as she later received the same compassionate support first from her home care aides and then from the associates at Brightview’s Wellspring Village. Mary made many wonderful friends during her time at Elmwood Manor who have stayed connected with her to this day.

Mary was a longtime parishioner of Our Lady of the Sacred Heart in Tappan, NY and a one-time member of their Altar Rosary Society. She was as devoted to her family as she was to her Catholic faith. Mary cherished her children, their spouses and her grandchildren. She would never fail to respond at a moment’s notice to help her children and their families; whether it was to babysit or assist with a household emergency, no request was too difficult and no drive too long. Of all the beautiful qualities she possessed, the one that defined Mary was her selflessness; a quality that never left her even in her last years. Her thoughts were rarely of herself and always about the needs of those with her. She went out of her way to make others feel comfortable and appreciated. Mary’s granddaughter Cate summed her up best, “she made you feel special even when she didn’t know who you were”.

Mary leaves behind many who loved and admired her. She is survived by her five children and eleven grandchildren: Patrick, wife Maureen and children Megan, Kelly and Philip; Lisa and son, Brian; Philip, wife Maureen and sons Paul and Peter; Kristine, husband Michael and daughters Carly, Cate and Riley; and Paul, wife Heather and sons Ryan and Evan; her sister, Kathleen Kelleher and husband Daniel; her sister, Margaret Keaveney, and her sister-in-law, Susan McGovern, and their families; as well as numerous cousins and friends.

A Mass of Christian Burial for Mary will be celebrated at Our Lady of the Sacred Heart Church in Tappan, NY. Due to COVID-related restrictions, attendance at the Mass and visitation will be limited to immediate family. A Mass and memorial service to celebrate Mary and Phil’s life together will be scheduled in the future. At this time, the family asks that donations be made in Mary’s name to Meals on Wheels of Rockland (